When it comes to fighting for the right for women to decide when they want to remain pregnant, our opponents often try to frame the debate as one of fickle pregnant women aborting for frivolous reasons. But it’s even more harmful when our allies fall into the same rhetorical trap.
Discussing the likelihood that Iowa Republicans will once more come after the state’s Medicaid coverage of abortions in the cases of rape, incest, and the life of the pregnant person, Iowa Democrat Jack Hatch tells the Associated Press that the Republicans will be unsuccessful, noting that these are “medically-needed” abortions versus “recreational abortions.”
As someone who has had a dilation and curettage (D&C), I can firmly state that whatever the circumstances, it was by no means “fun,” a term most people would be inclined to associate with “recreational activities.” Recreational activities are done in your spare time. They are hobbies. They are enjoyable. They are none of the things that would be associated with ending a pregnancy, and to use the term implies a flippant nature to a woman’s life decisions and we already have enough of that from anti-choice politicians… we don’t need more from those supposedly supporting us.
Abortions are the result of a decision to terminate a pregnancy after weighing one’s life circumstance and deciding, whether because of financial circumstances, current family situation, health concerns, or future aspirations, that a specific pregnancy is untenable and that the benefits of ending the pregnancy far outweigh those of bearing a child. It doesn’t matter whether this is because of medical issues, financial issues, sexual assault, or other personal reasons, the “necessary” versus “recreational” mentality is no more valid than the “good abortion/bad abortion” juxtaposition.
The choice to terminate is not a frivolous decision. Abortions are not “recreational” regardless of the reason behind them. We hope that our allies understand that and support the women who do so, for whatever reason they choose.
They absolutely believe this, though. I have no doubt that all the Republicans and the forced birthers honestly and completely believe that women have abortions as casually as they have pedicures.
Yeah, honestly, that line of thinking it blows my mind.
I would much rather use birth control, even with the various side effects I’ve experienced from both hormones and the copper IUD that are pretty damn shitty. Honestly, the pill royally fucked me up for a solid year and then some, which I’ve discussed before, and getting an IUD is PAINFUL and copper IUDs lead to pretty bad cramping and longer periods, even though I almost NEVER got crampy before and my periods used to be fairly short. But those side effects are, at least at this stage in my life, much preferable to getting pregnant. I’ve gone through SO MUCH in order to avoid pregnancy, things that just really suck on a few levels, and I’m far from the minority on that.
And the thing is, birth control DOES FAIL. And not always due to user error, either.
I just… Who the hell thinks people get abortions for fun? It’s a last resort, a result of birth control failing and/or not being informed enough on birth control options to find one that works well enough, or being unprepared because someone violently assaulted you.
I’m sorry, you said “doctors” and “scientists?” I think you mean “my imaginary friends,” asshole.
Hahaha, what the fuck even.
Also, do actual doctors even use the word “womb”? Pretty sure uterus is the most acceptable medical terminology.
A hard on is worth four times as much as a newborn. Pretty much sums up the rest of the bullet points, no?
That last statistic was fucking disgusting… and people STILL call women who complain about the price of childbearing “wellfare queens” and “I don’t want my taxes to go to that.” They don’t think women are entitled to birth control and pre/postnatal care because how dare those sluts feel entitled to sex, but men MUST BE ABLE TO HAVE SEX NO MATTER WHAT HOW DARE WE’D DENY THEM SEX THEY WORK HARD FOR IT.
If you are still against free birth control after this fact bomb I hate you.
It frustrates me how people not of the age yet to vote are making posts/statues about how things like birth control and women’s rights “won’t get the economy rolling again.”
Because you can’t care about both at the same time, amirite? Because reproductive health care and women’s equality aren’t…
I get sick of hearing the “YOU CARE ABOUT X WHAT ABOUT Y????” as if people can’t care about one thing at a time.
I even heard it a lot from grown ass adults. It’s fucking maddening!
But, here’s the thing, access to birth control and keeping reproductive rights open DOES help the economy.
People are able to plan WHEN to have families with access to birth control and abortion services. This removes a burden on taxpayers because people who can’t afford to have children, won’t until they are more financially stable. We already know this happens; people are getting married or having children much later than they did even 20 years ago and it’s BECAUSE of birth control and reproductive rights.
That helps taxpayers.
People who can get pregnant and have access to birth control options will also be able to establish their careers without having to worry about being fired for getting pregnant (yet). This not only allows them to start making more money due to promotions and raises but it also allows them to establish a stable career. This is good for families. This is good for unemployment and it strengthens the economy.
People who take birth control and don’t have to worry about a pregnancy can spend the money they would be using for diapers and bottles and prenatal care to invest in the economy, either locally, or in the stock market.
There is not a single thing about birth control access and reproductive rights that DOESN’T benefit the economy. So, even though people with insurance can get it without a copay, conservatives will say that they are paying for it. Even if that WERE true (it’s not. IT’S NOT), they’d be saving billions of dollars for taxpayers by investing in birth control because less children born in poverty means less money being used for social government programs.
There is no good reason to limit access to birth control or keep people in the dark about their reproductive rights.
If you have had any sexual activity where pre-ejaculate or ejaculate has gotten near the vulva there is a chance of pregnancy. For a longer explanation visit this post.
To figure out what your approximate chance of pregnancy is visit this break down of chance by contraceptive technique used.
If you had sex that had a high risk of pregnancy, like you were totally unprotected, you had a condom failure, didn’t do the withdrawal technique right, or weren’t using birth control correctly you can take emergency contraception. It’s best to get EC as soon as you can, it is more effective the sooner you take it and not effective after 5 days. EC, like birth control, keeps you from ovulating. Unlike birth control it is a dose so that it starts working immediately but stops working after somewhere in between 5-7 days. This is because sperm lives inside of the body for around 5 days although some experts believe it may be closer to 7. If you don’t ovulate during that time there’s no chance of pregnancy. To find out more about different types of EC and other information visit this post.
If it is too late to take emergency contraception, to figure out when you should be concerned visit my “Am I pregnant: A step-by-step guide”
To reduce your worry about a pregnancy scare visit my post on safer sex.
Pregnancy scares suck. Keep yourself safe and informed!
If I didn’t know I want to have kids eventually, I’d just get sterilized.
I’m currently REALLY hating the fact that every form of contraceptive that’s actually effective enough for me to be comfortable with can have nasty side-effects.
I was digging around on the (very hard to navigate) website for my insurance company for a number of things today, and FINALLY found this in the FAQ regarding the ACA and birth control:
Under the Affordable Care Act, [redacted] is required to cover certain preventive services at no cost to you when performed by a network provider. Effective August 1, 2012, the following services were added and covered at no cost to the member:
Breastfeeding - comprehensive support and counseling from trained providers, as well as access to certain breastfeeding supplies for pregnant and nursing women for one year after delivery.
Contraception – Preferred Food and Drug Administration-approved contraceptive methods, sterilization procedures, and patient education and counseling, not including abortifacient drugs. Listed below are the specific contraceptive agents covered at no cost-sharing for [redacted] Health Plan members:
Gildess FE 1.5/30
Gildess FE 1/20
Medroxyprogesterone acetate injection
- Nexplanon (Implanon)
Basically posting because I was curious what the deal was with birth control, and why mine hasn’t been free for the last two times I’ve picked it up- turns out it’s not a free one, but one of those listed is the same type. I’m wondering if that’s been the case for any of my followers as well. I was more than a little surprised there’s a specific list of BC covered for free, and not all approved BC is.
And also, IUDs are finally covered in my plan, so now I can start thinking about that again, and whether or not I want to go ahead and get one or stick with the pill. Hmm…
I know I asked questions about IUDs back in January when I was going to get one, but I have more now that I hadn’t thought about back then, plus I’m pretty OK with the pill now, so I’m wondering if it’s really worth it to make the switch.
If anyone who has experience with an IUD, especially the Mirena, and is willing to give me some info, I’d definitely appreciate a private message (non-anon so I can actually reply privately, please). Not to get all weird about this stuff suddenly, because I think it’s important to talk about these issues to remove stigma, but there are also questions I have regarding sex, and I’d like to grant my boyfriend (and myself, as well) some privacy in that regard.
“If you’re a conservative woman and you believe in small government, then Barack Obama is your candidate because he’s keeping the government out of decisions that should remain between you and God and you and your own conscience.”
Republican women talk about their history with the Republican Party and why they’re voting to reelect President Obama in November.
I love this!
No matter who you are if you vote based off of abortion and nothing else your priorities are FUCKED UP.
ps i’m not a republican and obama is my favorite candidate so don’t even come at me bros.
That’s the problem though, the current republican platform’s stance on women’s health rights doesn’t just address abortion. Abortion is still highly controversial and while I don’t agree with people who are completely pro-life, I can still understand their reasoning.
The PROBLEM that most of these women have (myself included, although I’ve always been fairly liberal) is the fact that organizations such as Planned Parenthood that address and help women with their specific health issues are threatened by the republican platform. Being pro-life is understandable; being for sexist health legislation is not.
Women should have birth control under health insurance (which hello, prevents abortions). Women with low incomes should have access to mammograms, cervical cancer screenings, etc. I don’t even know why this is even in question in the current presidential election; this is in fact, the 21st century.
I know that you probably agree with me, but please realize that the women in this video are switching parties for a much bigger reason that simply pro-life vs. pro-choice, they are switching parties because Obama is a much more promising candidate for gender equality as a whole.
I agree with you, of course, and I’ve noticed over the time i’ve followed you our political opinions are actually very similar and in some cases completely identical.
But this video did a poor job of making the point that YOU made in a text post, you expressed that point better than a video that probably cost thousands of dollars in a simple text post that I bet you typed in less than 5 minutes. Right?
I was simply expressing dissatisfaction with the video, not the point it makes. BUT I stand by the fact even still voting on gender equality ALONE is a poor vote because of some other very important factors such as the economy (to me this is not as important as gender equality because it doesn’t deal with human rights) and FOREIGN POLICY (the most important point for me on deciding who I vote for). Foreign policy not only affects everyone in the US but most people outside of it (although it shouldn’t, it does) and Obama’s foreign policy is flawed though not nearly as flawed as romneys so of course if you’re going to vote still vote Obama but I’m just saying you have to consider all the issues not just this one or that one.
I agree that it’s generally not a great idea to be a one-issue voter but honestly? I very highly doubt that most people are.
That said, you DO realize that access to safe and legal abortion can LITERALLY be a life-or-death issue for the people who need said abortions, right? So if someone knows there’s a possibility they’ll get pregnant (because no contraception is 100% effective), and they know that either they or someone they care about may, at some point, need an abortion, then the idea of overturning Roe v. Wade becomes a huge problem. Many people will still seek abortions, even it isn’t legal, and in those cases, the procedure becomes much more dangerous for them. It becomes something that could end their own life, but desperate times call for desperate measures, right?
So good on you, someone who can never get pregnant, telling people they’re “fucked up” if the issue that determines their vote is one that can (again) mean life-or-death for them at some point. And given that 30% - 40% of people who can get pregnant will get abortions at some point, that’s a big deal.
Foreign policy is super important. I will never deny that. But you can’t begrudge people for voting in a way that helps to preserve their very own LIFE.
SWING AND A MISS LET’S TRY THIS SHIT AGAIN
JFC YOU PEOPLE LITERALLY DON’T UNDERSTAND SEX AT ALL
Don’t wanna add any TMI to this right now but… Yessssss…
August 1, 2012: Birth control methods such as the pill and IUDs are fully covered by insurance as of today, thanks to the Affordable Care Act.
A multitude of other preventative services for women are now also available at no cost, including annual checkups, HPV testing, pap swears, mammograms for women over 40, HIV counseling and domestic violence counseling. Hooray! [photo via Ultraviolet]
And speaking of birth control… OH HAPPY DAY!
Though I’d heard that all of this only goes into effect immediately for NEW plans, and those who are already covered by health insurance may not see the benefits yet. I can’t remember the date, but I feel like Jan 1, 2013 (or maybe even 2014?) was when it becomes mandatory for existing plans. Curious. I’m picking up a refill of my birth control in the next few days so we’ll see if I still have a $10 copay or not. (If not… maybe IUDs will finally be fully covered and I should consider getting one again?)
BUT I COULD BE WRONG. Gonna research this more, this is just what I remember hearing last year.
Someday, I will live in a country where birth control pills can be bought freely over the counter, and you will have to speak to a medical professional to buy ammunition for high-powered rifles. Imagine if you did need a prescription to buy ammo. You might have to answer a couple of questions about why you want 6,000 rounds. Perhaps the doctor might decide it’s in your best interest to discuss all options. If a doctor became a ‘bullet mill’, we could shut him down.
Admittedly, you might run into a medical professional who refuses to let you buy bullets and demands a religious exemption. Could be a problem, but you can always just find another ammunition provider.
Make love, not homicide, baby.
Here is where my nose is, and where it belongs:
Tens of thousands of Protestant, Catholic, Jewish, Muslim, Buddhist, Hindu women work for or study at various Catholic-sponsored universities and hospitals that involve and hire them — and that receive my/ our tax money. (They are quite different from fully religious Catholic institutions, like churches, dioceses, or the NCCB, that do NOT receive tax money.)
Many many of those women who are hired by or are students of these tax-supported non-religious institutions need contraception, but can’t afford it without insurance.
Those women are my business. All of them, including the Catholic women who in shaping their own religious consciences (did you know that women are capable of doing that?) have concluded that contraception is ethical and moral.
Would you also suggest I keep my long Jewish nose out of some Catholic priests’ rape of Catholic children and some Catholic bishops’ protection of those priests from the law, because I’m not a Catholic? Perhaps you would.
Rabbi Arthur Waskow to Catholic League President Bill Donohue
I think “did you know women are capable of doing that?” is about when my Jewish heart grew two sizes. Rabbi Waskow is a mensch.
Or you can trust
womento choose whatever birth control works best for them. Just a thought!
Wha… Since when do IUDs cost about $60? Even with my insurance plan, my coinsurance for one was still going to cost me several hundred dollars- more than staying with the pill for all the years the IUD would theoretically be effective for if I had no issues, as I have a $10 copay for my pill. That’s why I ended up canceling my appointment to get one back in January and stuck with a pill and a daily alarm on my phone. Fortunately, I’ve gotten pretty used to taking it in the last year, and haven’t had any side effects I’ve noticed that bothered me since that first few months on it, so it hasn’t been a problem. (I should say here that I had tried going on the pill twice before my current run, and I just couldn’t stick with it those times, hence my plan to get an IUD… The pill doesn’t work for everyone, so I’m relieved it’s finally working for me.)
Not to mention, but even copper IUDs, though non-hormonal, ALSO HAVE SIDE EFFECTS. For instance, for some people, they cause heavier and more painful menstruation. Insertion is also, for some people, incredibly painful. And from what I read when I was doing my research to decide between copper and hormonal IUD, all IUDs can also make sex more complicated, if not more painful, especially for the first few weeks after getting one inserted and especially if there isn’t sufficient foreplay. And that’s not to mention even that, again, not all peoples’ bodies play nicely with IUDs so for some people, they expel them within months of getting them inserted.
Basically: every single birth control method has SOME undesirable side effect. Some work better for different people than others. So seriously? Let people decide the best contraceptive method for themselves without shaming them for it. OK?
The first segment of this episode is Terry Gross interviewing Jill Lepore about the recent history of birth control and abortion, including Margaret Sanger (Lepore makes a point to explain that Sanger is “not a likable person” and delves into the problem of her association with eugenicists without excusing it)… Honestly, there’s a lot I don’t know about this history, so I found this to be a really fascinating discussion.
And yes, this actually a kind of old episode… it’s from Nov of last year but I’ve recently discovered Fresh Air and so I’m on a kick downloading and listening to old episodes that sound interesting or relevant, such as this. If you’ve never given this show a shot before, I strongly encourage it.